I was reading the newspaper just now and I read an article regarding the emotional effect on a family which has faced the murder of a family member -- and because I was recently selected for a fortnightly newspaper I was thinking what it would be to face such a situation as in to write such an article u would have to interview the family in question – and because becaue of the obvious emotional aspect – how would I be affected – I mean to write such an article i would have to make sure that I do justice to both my readers and the family in question – -- I would have to sell the story and at the same time make sure I remember the fact that these are true emotions I am talking about – these things have actually happened to somebody

– I mean do we actually realize when we read newspapers that these are not some bland statistics – but real people – I mean nowdays – when we read in the papers that –for example 5 people have been killed in guwahati – do we realize that that these five people had five families – which would at that very moment be grieving the loss of their dear ones – we have become so immune to this whole thing – it just doesn’t make a difference to us – what we are looking for is more people being killed – when u see 200 killed – then u look up and notice as if the death of 5 people is acceptable and the death of 200 people is not – there is also the fact that –why do we see death as something so tragic – ( at the risk of sounding heartless -- ) we naturally assume that the person in question has something to greave about – I mean maybe – he is at a better place –

what I have learnt from my experience – is the importance of completing things – and more importantly completing relationships – since life itself stands for unpredictability – u cannot take it for granted that the person in question will still be alive when u are ready to reconcile – don’t wait – since u don’t know how much time u have in this world – I firmly believe that fighting with people u love or people whose death u cannot consider without pain is a sheer waste of time – since u are losing out on the time u could have spent together and time is something which we humans frankly cannot afford to waste – obviously this doesn’t mean that we proceed with life in frenzied hurry – actually it should mean the exact opposite since when we actually leave this place what would matter is not what u accomplished in life but rather what did u see in life – where u able to see its absolute beauty – whether u felt all ur five senses – whether u noticed those sounds in the background which ur mind tend to block – whether u noticed the vividness of the colors which ur eyes could perceive – whether u smelt the earthen smell accompanied by the first rains – whether u felt the soft freshly falling snow – whether u appreciated the spices on that hotdog u just had – whether u actually felt connected to ur partner in the act of making love – whether u experienced the heaven that this place really is --

being able to appreciate these proofs of life is the biggest gift u could inculcate in urself – it makes ur whole life a song and dance affair –u live totally in the now and there is no fear since u have tasted life like few before u have – but what is also important is to go after those dreams that u have nurtured since childhood – being able to fight the good fight for ur dreams is the best thing u can do – since the satisfaction of knowing that u did the best u could is irreplaceable – there is no bigger satisfaction on earth than knowing u could have done no better –

I have ranted for far too long on the stuff I not necessarily set out to discuss –but that is the nature of the human mind –to jump from one thing to another all joined to each other by a small thread – see ya

May god put a smile on ur face

tc